Everytime you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing. – Mother Teresa

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Landslide of changes

…Oh, mirror in the sky, what is love?
Can the child within my heart rise above?
Can I sail through the changing ocean tides?
Can I handle the seasons of my life?
uhm.. hmm… I don’t know. uhm hmm.
Well, I’ve been afraid of changing
‘Cause I’ve built my life around you…
But time makes you bolder,
children get older,
And I’m getting older too…
I take my love, take it down.
I climb a mountain and turn around.
Thank You Stevie Nicks for expressing what is in my heart in a beautiful classic song, Landslide. I know you didn’t write these lyrics about children growing up, and all the changes that are going on in my life… you were so young when you wrote them… but never-the-less they are so expressive of my life right now.
My babies are grown up and have real jobs, real car payments, and will never be living with us under one roof again. {“children get older..”} I am so very proud of both of my babies and so excited for their futures… but knowing that times are changing is hard. My last 25 years has been dedicated to loving my children and “building my life around them” has left me feeling alittle strange. Victor and I LOVE being empty-nesters, but there is still a sadness for times gone by. {“can I handle the season’s of my life?”}
Changes are a part of life {“I’ve been afraid of changes”} and I always get really sentimental and emotional when I am going through major changes. I have recently made a huge career change as well. {“I climbed a mountain and I turned around”} I am so excited about it but fearful at the same time. The What-Ifs in life can really pull down an over-analyzer like me.
I start to over-analyze what am I to do at this stage in life. {“I’m getting older too”}
I have decided to invest my time in my Identity in Christ.. and not just in my being a mom and wife. {“oh mirror in the sky, what is love?”} I have decided to not worry so much about what other people think, and people-pleasing {“time makes you bolder”}.
I am going to enjoy our empty nest time and enjoy time together – we started off with babies so this is going to be a honeymoon!
Victor, lets go drive around on a summer night with the sun roof open and get a coke and listen to music – like we are kids again!
{“can the child within my heart rise above?”}
Yes !!!!! IMG_4757

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Empty-Nesters

My Pride and Joy

My kids are all grown up. I can’t believe it ! Somedays I miss them being here, but we are lucky because they both live within 15 minutes of us.

I’ve always heard of people having a hard time being empty-nesters… but we are loving it. We do whatever we want! We have had structure and schedules coming out of our ears since the day we had babies and we started off our marriage with a baby which was amazing but sometimes difficult.

It is so great to not have so many commitments and just be spontaneous. We are best friends and that makes it even better. Sometimes we eat breakfast for dinner, we watch tv in our underwear… in the living room !!! We come and go when we feel like it…. for dinner, a movie, anything we want to do without worrying about the kids. Its really great.  Of course we still see the kids every week… and I actually text with each one of them daily… but having a clean guest bathroom all the time is the bomb-digity!

We really love this new stage of life we are in.  The seasons we have been through have all been great, but this one may be more special to us because we never really had time alone together at the beginning of our marriage. Shelby was 14 months old when we married. Yes, that’s right, we have a love child. Then we had Sawyer a year and 1/2 after we married. The kiddos are 2 1/2 years apart. It was fun raising them close together.  We were very involved in all of their extra curricular activities and school too. I was a girl scout leader and coached cheerleading and Victor coached hockey. We went to every play, game, open house, awards assembly, banquet, and we had amazing birthday parties!!! Our kids were loved and they knew it.  We sacrificed financially so I could be home with them afterschool everyday.  It was the right thing to do for our family.

We have been together for 24 years and married for almost 22 years … we have had ups and downs like any couple and stood by eachother through the good and the bad. We are so blessed with our beautiful babies that are both now grown up. We did our best as parents and I look forward to being a grandparent… someday… but for now… its me and Vic time… and we are loving it !

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